You can’t always do it alone

Brajesh Singh
2 min readSep 30, 2022

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Fellow pain sufferers, here are some tips that could be helpful to you.

You can’t always do it alone. Sometimes you need help even when you are an expert.

I healed myself from chronic back pain five years ago, and I was sure I had mastered Diversion Pain Syndrome (DPS). I coach others so I must be an expert right? Not quite. Earlier this year, I tore my calf muscle playing pickle-ball. It was eight weeks months of pain and hobbling around and physical therapy. But after I got better, I did a jump and felt a stab of pain. “I must have pushed myself too early and re-injured myself,” I told myself. The physical therapists told me to slow down. But this time, the pain wouldn’t go away. Another two months passed and I just wasn’t getting better. And the pain was moving to my knees. I was sure I was connecting to all my emotions, what was wrong?

I finally went to a different physical therapist, and she looked at me and said “You seem to be a person who’s in his head?” I said “Yes, I am”. I knew I found the right person. (By the way her name is Nima Zaal and she practices in Michigan). She did a thorough examination, asking me to stretch and do several different movements. She said if I was injured I wouldn’t be able to do those movements. My injury had healed and I could start loading it and increasing activity to build back the muscle, despite the pain I was feeling. With her help over the next several weeks, I came back to full strength and the pain is gone. What mistake had I made? I didn’t believe I was healed. Without her help and expertise I would still be in pain.

There are really two steps to healing.
1 — Belief that there is nothing structurally wrong.
2 — Acknowledging your emotions and not giving them any meaning.

It was a lesson to me that no matter how well I know DPS, I may still need help.
If you’re not getting better, seek more experts, ask for help, we’re here to help you.
It reminds of the quote by Ram Dass : “We’re all just walking each other home.”

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Brajesh Singh
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Author of #1 Amazon Bestseller "The Straw That Broke the Camel's Back"